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Solitude. 

“Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.” -Bell Hooks

When was the last time you went to lunch by yourself, or went to movie alone. Maybe you find it weird going to coffee, or lunch by yourself. In this age of social media, we have forgot the importance of being alone. Even if you go for lunch alone someday, you immediately take out your smartphone and check your Facebook, play games and watch videos. You act like normal, but you keep your head down and pray that no one looks at you. The truth is, you are just pretending. Yes, pretending to be busy to hide your embarrassment at being alone. 

That’s the problem of this social media society, we consider being alone as antisocial and weird.

We are all born alone, we will die alone, then why we are so ashamed of having some alone time in public space. Don’t be alone all the time but at least in a week, go for coffee or dinner by yourself, don’t wait for anyone to accompany you.  You will feel relaxed, there would be no burden to dress yourself to impress someone, you can order whatever you like without thinking about what your friends might think. Being alone helps you to connect with yourself. 

Don’t assume solitude as loneliness, both are entirely different. In loneliness, you feel alone, you don’t enjoy, but in solitude, you are alone, but you don’t feel alone, you enjoy things by yourself. And the day you start enjoying things by yourself, you will never depend on someone else for your happiness, your happiness will be in your hand, isn’t that great?

Since it’s the weekend, go for coffee by yourself, turn off the phone, just enjoy your solitude, connect with yourself. 

Who knows, you may find your awakening in the moment of solitude.

“Aloneness is the joy of just being yourself. It is being joyous with yourself, it is enjoying your own company. There are very few people who enjoy their own company. And it is a very strange world nobody enjoys his company and everybody wants others to enjoy his company. If they don’t enjoy he feels insulted and alone, he feels disgusted with himself. In fact, if you cannot enjoy your own company, who else is going to enjoy it?

Aloneness, solitude is positive. It is overflowing joy for no reason. It is our very nature to be joyous hence there is no need to depend on anybody else. There is no other motive in it, it is simply there. Just as the water flows downwards, your being rises upwards. Just give it a chance give it solitude

Compose yourself, be happy.

You are a seeker.”

– Osho

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Strangers. 


“…sometimes one feels freer speaking to a stranger than to people one knows. Why is that? Probably because a stranger sees us the way we are, not as he wishes to think we are.”


Strangers. We are taught not to talk to strangers, they can be the kidnappers or murderers. But I don’t believe in that. Every person in this world has stories, stories that make them who they are. We all are made up of stories, we are inspired from stories. Every stranger has a lot of things for us, countless lessons to be learned. The solutions to all of our problems and maybe the next best friend.

Recently I started talking to a person(stranger) Over mail, and slowly, slowly we kind of become close friends. There were so many things to learn from her, she taught me so many things. I was inspired by her battles and her battle’s start motivating me to do better in my life. I always believe that even the people you don’t know can transform your life. Everyone has a different perspective about life, and while you talk to strangers and listen to their perspective, the way you think about world starts changing, and you start becoming a better person.  
We need to realize that every person is going through or has gone through some problems, and listening to their problems surely helps us to conquer our problems. 

Some people are stronger than you can even imagine, and she is one of them. Most of the most valuable lessons I have learned, has come from strangers. 
As it says that, we need to break rules, to live freely, so let’s for once break this golden rule of childhood, “Remember, don’t talk to strangers.”
Forget that such rules, even exist, go out and talk to a stranger, and see your life changing. 
Each time you say hello to a stranger, your heart acknowledges over and over again that we are all family.                                

 This post is dedicated to her, I would love to be your friend forever, hopefully we will be friend forever.  Thanks for inspiring me. 
Share your experience of talking to a stranger, and if you wish to talk to me, mail me. (Check “about the author” page) 
Pic- Strangers by Blanca Gomez

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Unlove Someone. 


Once upon a time, you loved someone, more than your life, he was your soulmate. 

And one day, you broke up, things didn’t turned out well between you both.  He no longer was your soulmate, or the love of your life. Now you want to unlove him because he broke you apart.  You start unloving him. 

But is it possible to unlove someone, someone who meant the world, little while ago. 

Unloving someone, you once loved is next to impossible. You never unlove people. You don’t wake up one morning and find that you no longer love that person. Forget months and years, sometimes it doesn’t happen in a life time. Once you have truly given your whole heart and soul to a person, you leave a piece of yourself with them, and even after months and years of non communication, and you would still wonder how that piece of you is doing. 

It’s kind of funny how in this era of social media, how quickly people fall in love, break up and again fall in love with someone else. It’s either they didn’t loved the person in first place and they were living the false idea of love or maybe they confused infatuation with love. These days  people mostly confuse infatuation with love. 

“You never stop loving someone, you either never did or you always will.”

You will always love the person whom you truly loved. Memories of them, flashbacks, will remind you now and then about the trip you didn’t take. 

Their memories will run parallel with your daily life. 

You never unlove people, and they never goes out of your life. They stays with you always. No matter how badly they treated you, they never goes out of your life. Once a person comes in your life and you give him/her a little space in your heart, they stay there forever. You just can’t unlove people. 

With time, you will definitely heal, but you will have this scar — this tiny space cut into you that’s reserved for that somebody who used to play a big part in your life. For better or for worse, the scar will stay with you forever.

I would love to know what you guys think about unloving someone. 


“I believe that people come into your life and then some go. I also think there’s a purpose as to why they were in your life at all. Each one takes a piece of you when they go. Some leave pieces of themselves with you. Sometimes its’s wisdom, or maybe, it’s a lesson.”


— Shey Stahl, Waiting for You

Art – christina nguyen, pic credits – Google. 

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Why we broke up. 

The sole reality of any relationship is that they really have only and only one outcome, it either works, or it doesn’t. Not everyone we date will be “THE ONE.”

And sadly you were not,” THE ONE ” for me, though for some reason I thought you are the one for me. But you proved me wrong, and I’m very thankful to you for that. 

We couldn’t make us last, we were not able to make our love story an epic one. 

Maybe we were never meant to be. 

We barely had anything in common between us. Our priorities were different, we were hardly on the same page about anything. 

It was always what you wanted, when you wanted, and not what I wanted and when I wanted. 

Maybe we both are equally responsible for the failure of our relationship, maybe I gave you too much of freedom and you used that against me.

I never wanted to be a possessive girlfriend, so I trusted you, gave you all the liberty, but sadly you broke my trust, not only my trust but also me, yes you broke me into a million pieces. 

As people say, you realize the value of someone, when they are gone. I hope one day you will realize the value of mine. 

We did try to work things out, but that didn’t work. 

We loved each other well, for a time. And please know that part of me will always love you. 

Well, I have only one question for you. 

Was it easy for you? 

Because It killed me. 

GOODBYE FOREVER, HELLO GOODBYE

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Chances 

 “Sometimes we must make a choice, to take a chance, or our life will never change.”

As we grow up, we realize that life is no fairy tale and this world is a mean place. We learn that even the person that wasn’t supposed to hurt us or let us down, probably will. That’s what life is, unimaginable, unpredictable.  

You will fight with your best friend and become a complete stranger or maybe even fall in love with them. You will break someone’s heart, your heart will be broken by someone. You will be on cloud nine in one moment and another moment you will crying the hell out you. You will think you have a lot of time in life to things you want to do and suddenly you will realize you have no time to those things. 

Life comes with no second chances, no guarantees, no timeouts.  You have this one chance to live and you have to live life to the fullest. Click photographs, make memories, write letters, give gifts, tell someone what they mean to you, dance in the rain, read books, travel, give hugs, comfort a friend, laugh and smile until your face hurts.

Don’t be afraid to take chances, to fall in love and most importantly live in the moment,  because you have limited time. If there is even a slight chance at getting something that will make you happy, risk it. Life is too short and happiness is too rare. 

“In the end we only regret the chances we didn’t take.”

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Dear India 

Dear India, 

Hope you are doing good, we are also doing very well. We know that recently you are going through difficult times and we are confident that you will overcome them and emerge victorious. 

You always have. Your struggles and victories inspires us. We know that we have hurt you many times, we have criticized you a lot. Irrespective of all hate and hurt, you have forgiven us all the time. Thank you for forgiving us for our immature behavior all the time. 

And let us assure you that irrespective of all the differences we have between us, we love you the most and that love is going only going to increase. 

We also know that you are not happy with us. The way we treat our girls worries you. You are also disappointed with the fact that the women’s are still not independent. But let me tell you that we are progressing and soon all the girls of our country will be independent. Be confident about that. 

We have collectively failed you many times, but you still care about us and love us. Thanks for all your caring. 

Be strong, be diverse. 

Hugs and more hugs. 

Love, 

Indians. 

P.S Let’s meet for coffee someday, we have a lot to discuss.

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Moments 

Our life is not made of hours, days or years. Our life is made of moments. 

MOMENT (n) A brief period of time. 

Yes, our life is made up of moments. It’s these small moments which make our life big. In our life we have experienced millions of moments. These are priceless because it lives with you forever and ever, no one can take them away from you. It’s yours exclusively.  

Said that we have already experienced millions of moments, and we will continue to experience millions more. How many moments do we remember, hold onto and cherish? 

In this quick paced life, where we want everything  really fast, where one click can lead you to the world of unlimited opportunities. In a time when life feels so stressed and rushed, how frequently do we take out the time and reflect upon those priceless moments, which shaped us into the way we are now.  Yes, it’s moment, which shapes our life. 

“Sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage and something great will come of it.”

What a great quote. Those 20 seconds of courage today will become the determining moment of your life after a few years. It will shape you. Such is the importance of moments.Life happens in the moment.Learn to seize the moments, embrace them. You are made up of moments, remember them. Appreciate moments, for they are so significant

In the end, they are the only thing you will have. 

Share with me the moments which shaped your life. And yes smile please, this is your moment. Be happy.