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Solitude. 

“Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.” -Bell Hooks

When was the last time you went to lunch by yourself, or went to movie alone. Maybe you find it weird going to coffee, or lunch by yourself. In this age of social media, we have forgot the importance of being alone. Even if you go for lunch alone someday, you immediately take out your smartphone and check your Facebook, play games and watch videos. You act like normal, but you keep your head down and pray that no one looks at you. The truth is, you are just pretending. Yes, pretending to be busy to hide your embarrassment at being alone. 

That’s the problem of this social media society, we consider being alone as antisocial and weird.

We are all born alone, we will die alone, then why we are so ashamed of having some alone time in public space. Don’t be alone all the time but at least in a week, go for coffee or dinner by yourself, don’t wait for anyone to accompany you.  You will feel relaxed, there would be no burden to dress yourself to impress someone, you can order whatever you like without thinking about what your friends might think. Being alone helps you to connect with yourself. 

Don’t assume solitude as loneliness, both are entirely different. In loneliness, you feel alone, you don’t enjoy, but in solitude, you are alone, but you don’t feel alone, you enjoy things by yourself. And the day you start enjoying things by yourself, you will never depend on someone else for your happiness, your happiness will be in your hand, isn’t that great?

Since it’s the weekend, go for coffee by yourself, turn off the phone, just enjoy your solitude, connect with yourself. 

Who knows, you may find your awakening in the moment of solitude.

“Aloneness is the joy of just being yourself. It is being joyous with yourself, it is enjoying your own company. There are very few people who enjoy their own company. And it is a very strange world nobody enjoys his company and everybody wants others to enjoy his company. If they don’t enjoy he feels insulted and alone, he feels disgusted with himself. In fact, if you cannot enjoy your own company, who else is going to enjoy it?

Aloneness, solitude is positive. It is overflowing joy for no reason. It is our very nature to be joyous hence there is no need to depend on anybody else. There is no other motive in it, it is simply there. Just as the water flows downwards, your being rises upwards. Just give it a chance give it solitude

Compose yourself, be happy.

You are a seeker.”

– Osho

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36 thoughts on “Solitude. 

  1. As they say, you can’t love others until you love yourself. It’s weird how people label writers and thinkers who sit alone as nerds. Going alone is not sad. Going alone is empowering. It intimidates others and that is why they insult people who do enjoy their own company.
    Great thought!

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  2. This resounded very powerfully with me tonight, as I sat alone in a big house and reflected on what I feel as my phone and social media platforms just melt away. I have done this for the past several days – and I’m happy to say that I have been able to cultivate more positive thoughts and self talk as a result. I composed myself, and as a result I have been happier than ever before. Solitude is indeed a wonderful thing!

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  3. That’s a lesson to be followed, I’ve been alone most of my life for necessity, so most often I don’t like it, now in the process of recovering from a tough episode of depression and anxiety I’m trying my best to learn to be in solitude, and enjoy it, thanks!!

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  4. So true!! I’ve always been surrounded by people, when I first moved away from home to a new country it felt strange to be alone, almost depressing. Can’t say I’m a pro at being in the company of only myself now but a change in perspective has definitely worked. Beautiful post!

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  5. It’s amazing how wonderful reading these posts feel…..when my past kept eyeing latest updates in THE SOCIAL MEDIA…….and at the end of the day…..feel stupid……

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  6. Insightful post. I love it!
    I’ve written these lines somewhere in my blog before (well, in a totally different sense of savoring your alone time, much active I suppose) “…make it your intention to be alone. Have a quality time with yourself. Go to places you’ve never been. Do the things you like to do back in your childhood days. Commune with nature and while you’re at it, run or trek, do the cartwheel, shout at the top of your voice, howl to the moon, chase butterflies, skinny dip in the waters, sleep under the canopy of trees, watch the stars, sing along with the sounds of nature, anything and anyway you’d like to do. Be the person you want to be. Follow your gut. Fall in love (and risk be hurt) or love as you’ve never loved before. Forgive yourself and your past. Re-live and revive your faith. Move out of your established comfort zones. For all its worth, we won’t know what life would unfold unless we courageously take the first step towards a much fulfilling life that we could have and a much happier person we could become.

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    1. Thank you 🙂
      Most of us are afraid to be alone. Do we ever go out for a walk alone? Very rarely. We always want somebody to go with us because we want to chatter, we want to tell somebody a story, we are all the time talking, talking, talking, so we are never alone, are we? When one grows older and can go for a walk alone, one discovers a great many things.

      One discovers one’s own ways of thinking, and then one begins to observe all the things about one, the beggar, the stupid man, the clever man, the rich and the poor one becomes aware of the trees, the birds, the light on a leaf. You will see all this when you go out alone.

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  7. I agree, we are born alone and we will die alone. and that’s ok! social media ALWAYS makes us feel as though we are doing something wrong – we see people getting married so we think we need to. this push for having the most followers and friends is only aesthetic. being alone is so import – we need to recharge and find ourselves.

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